If you found yourself nodding along to any of these comments, it could be that you’re part of a large group on this planet who are neurodiverse.
And, if you’ve ever been shamed, blamed, or made to feel “other” for being neurodiverse, you’re not alone.
BUT, far from it being a bad thing, neurodiversity is a beautiful, powerful way of being in the world, despite what dominant social messages may otherwise have you believe.
Moreover, the neurodiversity movement is growing and, in my opinion as a therapist, may be the next big wave of mental health care activism as well as a big step forward in general social compassion.
So in today’s article, I want to introduce you to the concept of neurodiversity and the neurodiversity movement, share some examples of neurodiversity, help you understand why neurodiversity is a beautiful, powerful thing, and give you some suggestions to support yourself or a loved one if you/they experience neurodiversity.
What is neurodiversity?
“Neurodiversity is the diversity of human brains and minds – the infinite variation in neurocognitive functioning within our species.” – Nick Walker, Neurocosmopolitanism
While there are many definitions, neurodiversity (a term coined in the late 1990’s by Australian sociologist Judy Singer) at its root, views variances in the brain (and impacts of these variances) as natural and normal variations in the human genome, rather than assigning a pathological label to such variances.
The neurodiversity movement seeks to normalize these brain structure variances in much the same way that other movements have sought to normalize, celebrate, and make more inclusive racial diversity, sexual and gender expression diversity, body diversity, religious diversity, ableism diversity, and more.
The neurodiversity movement challenges established and pervasive social norms that see inherent brain structure variances not as something to be “fixed” or “cured”, but rather as authentic and valuable forms of biological expression that may need individualized supports and help instead.
What are some examples of neurodiversity?
Examples of neurodiversity can include diagnoses such as ADHD/ADD, autism, bipolarity, and/or neurodiversity can also include personality traits relating to brain structure variances such as Sensory Processing Sensitivity, or learning capacity variances such as dyslexia or specific learning disorder.
Neurodiversity may often be invisible – even to those who have it and who don’t quite fully understand it or aren’t aware of it yet – and/or those with neurodiversity may actively try to make it look invisible thanks to the pervasive social stigma largely surrounding many neurodiverse populations.
But chances are, you probably have someone (if not a lot of someones) in your life who are neurodiverse. And perhaps you are, too. And that can be such a beautiful thing!
How can neurodiversity be a positive thing?
The neurodiversity movement is helping clinicians, educators, parents, and those themselves who identify as neurodiverse understand that there are, in fact, tremendous gifts and even social and evolutionary advantages that come along with being neurodiverse.
Whether this is possessing higher-than-average capacities for pattern recognition, memory and mathematics that can come with autism, hyperfocus and tremendous creativity that can come with ADHD, or vast wells of empathy and emotional attunement that can accompany Sensory Processing Sensitivity, neurodiversity, like with so many other forms of diversity, lends its owners gifts and advantages much like any other trait on this planet if framed and viewed this way.
How being neurodiverse can still feel hard.
But, on the other hand, for all of the possible gifts and advantages of neurodiversity, our society is largely not built and accommodating for and to those who are neurodiverse.
From the setup and structure of the grade school classroom, to the dominant visual and auditory learning methodology of our nation’s education system, to highly stimulating open concept office spaces, to the pace, demands, and calendared structure of modern, urban professional life — those with neurodiverse brains can often feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, uncared for and just generally not supported in many systemic social structures we mostly exist in.
Not to mention, of course, the high degree of stigma that still erroneously surrounds many forms of neurodiversity, particularly those that are viewed as pathologized mental health issues or learning disabilities.
So how can we — either as someone who lives with, parents, or works with someone who experiences neurodiversity — support and lessen the stigma around neurodiversity?
Some ways in which we can support ourselves and each other if we/they experience “neurodiversity.”
There are so many ways to support yourself, your child, your spouse or a friend or family member if you/they are neurodiverse.
Of course, seeking out appropriate and comprehensive medical and mental health care should be a primary first step, but beyond that, there is a range of things we can do to support the acceptance of neurodiversity in our personal spheres and, perhaps, more largely.
This list contains just a few ideas:
- Expose ourselves to others’ stories: Hearing others speak up about their lives being neurodiverse can help normalize your (or your loved ones) experience and possibly make you feel less alone. I really encourage you to check out The Mighty for first-hand accounts of folks who live with a wide variety of neurodiverse (and health and ability diverse) experiences. Check out groups in your city/town or online (Facebook groups abound for this!) to help connect to likeminded others living with neurodiversity.
- Tell your story. If and when you feel ready to tell your story, consider telling friends, fellow parents, or colleagues who you view as safe and supportive about your experiences living with neurodiversity.
- Educate yourself. On the language, the reframe, the benefits of any particular neurodiverse elements, etc. By changing the way we view neurodiversity we can increase our understanding and compassion for ourselves and for others.
- If you’re in a position to, practice proactive corporate and small business neurodiverse recruitment, retention, and accommodation supports. Learn more about the movement to do more of this in corporate America.
- If you’re a parent or educator, ask for academic accommodations and supports that your child or student may need in order to accommodate their neurodiversity.
These are just a few suggestions for how you can support yourself and others if you experience neurodiversity. Now I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:
Do you live with neurodiversity? What’s one tip you would give anyone else living with neurodiversity to help them have more acceptance/ease/support? Leave a message in the comments below so that our community of blog readers can benefit from your wisdom.
If you would like additional support with this and you live in California or Florida, please feel free to reach out to me directly to explore therapy together. You can also book a complimentary consult call to explore therapy with one of my fantastic clinicians at my trauma-informed therapy center, Evergreen Counseling.
Or if you live outside of these states, please consider enrolling in the waitlist for the Relational Trauma Recovery School – or my signature online course, Hard Families, Good Boundaries, designed to support you in healing your adverse early beginnings and create a beautiful adulthood for yourself, no matter where you started out in life.
And until next time, please take very good care of yourself. You’re so worth it.
- The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When The World Overwhelms You by Elaine Aron, PhD*
- Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It by Gabor Mate, MD*
- The Tiger’s Journey of Nonconformity and Neurodivergence by Jenara Nerenberg
- Neurocosmopolitanism.com: Nick Walker’s notes on neurodiversity, autism, and cognitive liberty
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